That Muslim Woman Could Be Happier Than You …

My wife came across this article on the Telegraph and thought I’d share it with you. The article is on an interview with sister Na’ima Robert of the UK, a British convert to Islam and author of the book, From My Sister’s Lips. May Allah reward the sister for her Islamic propagation efforts.

The article:

Once she was a party-loving student; then Na’ima B Robert converted to Islam. But how did she become so convinced of the benefits of wearing Islamic dress that she now covers herself from head to foot and has written a book extolling its virtues? Bryony Gordon meets her

Na’ima B Robert likes to see her devotion to Islam as similar to eating in a fresh, organic restaurant, while we non-believers make do with the greasy-spoon cafe. “It’s something I want to share. You are free to eat where you like, but I would like to offer an invitation to the restaurant.”

The trouble, though, is that to many people in multi-cultural Britain today, Islam is seen as the greasy-spoon cafe in terms of religious restaurants. To some, it represents suicide bombers and honour killings and the oppression of women.

How to change this perception of Islam? Na’ima is a pretty good start. Until six years ago, the 27-year-old married mother of two ate in greasy-spoon cafes. She was born in England, to non-believing parents, before moving to Zimbabwe with them, where she had a typical adolescence, partying hard, listening to pop music and reading fashion magazines.

When she returned to Britain to study at the University of London, she had hopes of becoming a successful career woman who perhaps married and had children sometime in her thirties. But then she went to Egypt and everything changed.

While she was there, she couldn’t stop noticing the women in hijab (headscarves) and she was appalled. She could not understand why they allowed themselves to be so dominated by men; couldn’t fathom why they wouldn’t want to show themselves off. When she eventually asked a woman in hijab why she wore it, she was told simply: “Because I want to be judged for what I say and what I do, not for what I look like.”

It struck a chord with Na’ima, and she began reading about Islam. While many of her contemporaries were partying and meeting men, Na’ima made the decision to convert – or rather “revert” as it is known in the religion – to Islam. She has just completed writing From my Sisters’ Lips, an extremely thought-provoking book about her experience that challenges Western preconceptions of Islamic women.

Her devotion to her religion is such that she wears a full jilbab and a niqab, meaning she is completely covered. Mentally, however, she is completely uncovered, bubbly and extremely bright, holding forth articulately on her subject. “I am not downtrodden or submissive. I’m not a desexualised being. Just because we don’t display ourselves outside, people presume we don’t do it at all and, in a lot of cases, that couldn’t be further from the truth.” She lets out a huge, infectious laugh.

The problem is that nobody ever dares to ask her what it is like to be a Muslim woman. “I can’t bear political correctness. It’s so insidious, all this ‘oh I completely understand, but it’s just not for me’. No, you don’t understand; you haven’t asked me anything about being a Muslim. I prefer people to be up-front and ask me why I’m covering up. But nobody ever does because they think I’ll be offended.”

Agood example of the misconceptions we have about Muslim women is believing that they are all helpless, potential victims of an honour killing. But as Na’ima points out, “honour killings are a pre-Islamic thing, a cultural thing that is filtered down through the generations. But for those of us who have learnt pure Islam from the Koran and the scholars, it’s appalling.”

The crux of From my Sisters’ Lips is that, rather than making Na’ima feel oppressed, the Islamic dress makes her feel liberated. Indeed, she wonders if it is we non-Muslims who have the problem. “There is an arrogance in the West, a belief that you’re on top of the world and everyone wants to be like you. But how do you know that the Muslim woman walking down the street is not happier than you? We tend to attach our happiness to material things but we’re just fooling ourselves.

“The other day I saw a billboard showing a woman in a bra, and the ad was selling a mobile phone. The mind boggles. That woman is not being seen as an intellectual or an emotional being, but a sexual object selling a phone. And obviously the girl will say that’s my right, and that’s fair enough.

“But when I look at men’s magazines it’s all about sex and women,” she pauses to correct herself. “Sorry, girls. Girls, girls, girls. It’s just infantile. It breeds irresponsibility.

“I mean, why does someone need to wear a tiny top that barely covers their over-inflated breasts?” she laughs again. “For me, that’s a self-esteem issue. Do you need other people to validate you and say ‘honey, you look wonderful’? People may see me as being self-righteous and old-fashioned, but I just like to think that my self-esteem comes from somewhere deeper. I want to be valued the same way whether I’ve got a face full of spots or a completely clear complexion.”

I admire Na’ima’s reasons for wearing the jilbab, but I wonder if her faith dresses women in these garments for the same reasons. She says that Islam teaches equality between the sexes – why then do men not have to cover?

“I think that equality should not be equated with sameness. Islamically we are equal but we are not the same. We have qualities that men don’t have and men…” She pauses. “I’m not going to say this next bit.” Why not, if it is what she believes in?

“Because I don’t want the feminists on my back. But basically men have things that women don’t. They have physical strength and are the father of the children and these types of things. Men and women have different qualities and Islam recognises that and again everything has its context.”

Na’ima concedes that reverting to Islam has not always been easy. She is an educated women from a liberal background; when I ask about her views on matters such as abortion and homosexuality she says that “my views on every issue are guided by what Islam says. Some issues are hard, because I wasn’t raised that way. Sometimes I see the wisdom, sometimes I don’t understand everything to the very core. But I submit to Allah. If He says that these things are obligatory then I submit to them.

There are certain things that maybe you can’t see a benefit to, but it doesn’t mean that there’s no benefit to them. As Muslims we believe that Allah knows us better than we know ourselves. The way I see it, it’s like when you go to the doctor with an ailment and he gives you a foul-tasting medicine. I don’t know how it will make me better and I’d like to make it taste nicer but that is not my place. The doctor knows why it is like that and I trust in him.

“If people have issues with that kind of belief, that really is their problem. I can’t get into debates with them about it. It is not my place to do that.”

© Copyright Telegraph Media Group Limited. Source.


About Rasheed Gonzales
My name is Rasheed Gonzales. I’m a Muslim convert of Filipino descent. Born and raised in Toronto, Canada, I was guided to Islam through one of my younger brothers and a couple of friends, all of whom had converted to Islam sometime before me (may Allah reward them greatly). I am married with four children (and the praise is Allah’s) and also a volunteer for the Qur'an & Sunnah Society of Canada, based in Toronto.

One Response to That Muslim Woman Could Be Happier Than You …

  1. Slightly unrelated, but the sister gave an interview regarding her book and a magazine for which she’s the current editor. The interview can be found here.

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